There are words that have more than one meaning. aloha, nails, bark, peer mine, pool, ship, train, wave, etc. …..I also learned there are phrases that have more than one meaning. The one I’m going to talk about is “Have a blessed day”. Here are two of the many meanings this phrase can have:
1.) Pretty much the exact opposite:
Example: You just helped someone and they are extremely appreciative, when you depart each other’s company, they say “have a blessed day”
2.) Pretty much the exact opposite:
Example: You are having a less than pleasant exchange with someone, and when you depart each other’s company, they say “have a blessed day”
I always strive to elicit the first version, but yesterday I dealt with someone who treated me in a less than acceptable way, so I reciprocated. I should have been the bigger person, and not stooped to their level, but I watched them treat others poorly before it was my turn and decided I would mirror back what I received. If they were nice to me, I would have been nice back (they weren’t and I wasn’t). I didn’t go out of my way to be rude, but I didn’t go out of my way to be kind either (I’m a little embarrassed to admit this). I probably should have taken the high road, but I don’t like being talked to like I mean less to the world than anyone else, and this individual was going out of their way to make people feel that way.
As you can guess, when our time together ended, they were kind enough to suggest that I “have a blessed day” (of the second variety).
No one “won” in this interaction, and I feel worse for having gone through it – and I’m pretty sure the other person didn’t have their spirit lifted from the experience, although I got the feeling this was business as usual for them (but that doesn’t mean it’s ok to treat them poorly).
I’m only human, and will strive to earn meaning #1 going forward, and wish the same for those reading this.
Have a blessed day (variety #1)